To The Sisters

 Dear ma

Can I tell you something?

Can you draw your chair close so we can have 'a heart to heart talk' as sisters?

Hmm. You see this your nonsensical attitude of forming hard to get ehn, it will implicate you if you don't repent. I understand my gender like to form small, e be like say na part of us🙈 but no go overdo your own abeg.

How can a brother ask your hand in marriage, you seek the face of God and then you start delaying our dear brother unnecessarily?

 If God had wanted it prolonged, don't you think He would have delayed in giving you answers?

Except God is yet to speak, you have no right whatsoever to keep a brother in the waiting room for donkey years. That's wickedness.

Some of my gender can be very funny...Recall that I said some.

That was how one said she doesn't want to say yes yet after God has spoken, so she wouldn't seem cheap/desperate to the brother. What a wow!

I heard of another sister who led uncle on for years. She asked him to wait until she graduates from school and after graduation, she told uncle she wasn't interested anymore. Kai! 4years wasted. Uncle cried himself to stupor and encouraged himself in the Lord. 

God connected him to another sister and he moved on. Today, he's happy and his marriage is blessed with kids.

 It's been 5yrs now, the sister who turned down the brother's proposal is still very single. Apparently her back up(Plan B) packed up(disappointed her).

Please note; I am not mocking her, I pray God shows her mercy but this is to make us understand that we will live by the consequences of our choice(s) because God cannot be mocked and whatsoever you sow, you will definitely reap, whether now or later.

Dear sisters, some of you have refused to give that brother a response because he isn't your spec to you. 

A brother today may not look rich  but could be a potential millionaire. I hope you've read about mummy Gloria Bamiloye, mummy Becky Enenche and a host of others.

Don't play games with God. You know bro A is the will of God for you but you decided to keep him waiting, hoping that bro C the medical doctor will propose. 

God is watching you. He sees your heart and knows how selfish you are.

If you refuse to obey God's leading, see what might happen in future... Instead of getting a HUSBAND who will treasure and treat you right, you might end up marrying a "HORSEBAND" who will hit you, toy with your emotions, torment & make marriage a hell for you. Haven't you heard of some brothers beating up their wives? Some might not spank you physically but they will use their attitude & malice to finish you. Oh! You don't know? 

Forget all the wearing of suit, zealousness and all the jim-jim some of them display in the church o. Some are vipers in disguise waiting to unleash terror in marriage.

And because you can not tell a brother who will change in future,  because you cannot figure it out all by yourself, that is the more reason you should surrender your will to God. Allow him lead you dear sister.

I understand you are scared of what tomorrow(future) holds.

 Why not leave your fears & worry in the hands of God who knows tomorrow?

Please let God lead you.

Can you now stop this attitude of belittling a brother because he doesn't seem like your class?

Can you now stop keeping that brother in the waiting room even after God has spoken?

Can you now learn to add a touch of humility and character to your beauty?

Can you now stop toying with that brother emotions?

Can you now learn to turn down a brother proposal politely and with respect if God is not leading you to him?

Kindly learn to behave yourself like a Queen that you are because royalties are not rude and saucy, they represent class and virtue.

If you are a true daughter of God, I pray He settles you with one of His favorite son's in Jesus name. Amen

P.S: This was not written to attack anyone but it's a call to positive change if you are guilty.

#Shalom

"Chidima"